The Power of Positive Thinking When Dating at Backpage
How Towards Crank out First Date Flow
Hurt and Confused in long distance relationship
Your Time-bound Married life
Nonverbal Body Language – That Women Find Attractive
Backpage Dating Parties
Acer Loveawake
Past societies used to have elaborate social rituals to get people introduced and talking. We’re a very disconnected society in a lot of ways, including this one. I suspect that this fear of starting a conversation is keeping many girls from meeting men who aren’t super-aggressively forward.
31Susan Walsh October 6, 2011 at 8:11 am
@Parenna
So good to meet you, welcome! Thanks for sharing your experience.
Of course you’re not doing it wrong, your strategy is awesome! The way you know that is that it works for you, regardless of what we knuckleheads on the internet say. I’m surprised that you are introverted yet also put yourself out there frequently to meet new people.
Your being cheerful and straightforward is exactly what Eric Charles recommends – it’s Day Game. You strike up conversations with people just for fun, so they’re not wondering what you want from them, if you’re trying to pick them up, etc. The same guy who will happily discuss the book he’s reading and trade numbers might respond very differently if you rubbed up against him in a low cut top.
I would classify your strategy as one of meeting new people, which is obviously a great way to increase your chances of getting into a relationship, or of just making new friends! Once you establish rapport, you exchange numbers, suggest a hang, etc.
I don’t remember which reader said it, but one woman said that sometimes guys do approach, but after a couple of minutes the conversation stalls and the guys say, “OK, I’m going to go back to my friends now.” It could be they are not interested in further contact, but she often suspects they’ve just run out of things to say and feel awkward. If she’s interested she says, “Before you go, let me give you my number.” Obviously, the results are mixed but she has heard from several guys this way.
The bottom line is: Put yourself out there. Make it easy for guys to connect.
32Susan Walsh October 6, 2011 at 8:23 am
@Ceer
That is an epic comment, full of useful tactical information and such a great explanation of male psychology. Thank you so much for sharing it. Despite all the male claims that women don’t want beta guys, this is a frequent topic around HUS – how to encourage those guys (the 80% non-manslut guys).
33Wayfinder October 6, 2011 at 8:23 am
@Susan
You perceived correctly that the guy was speaking literally.
How Towards Crank out First Date Flow
Hurt and Confused in long distance relationship
Your Time-bound Married life
Nonverbal Body Language – That Women Find Attractive
Backpage Dating Parties
Acer Loveawake
Past societies used to have elaborate social rituals to get people introduced and talking. We’re a very disconnected society in a lot of ways, including this one. I suspect that this fear of starting a conversation is keeping many girls from meeting men who aren’t super-aggressively forward.
31Susan Walsh October 6, 2011 at 8:11 am
@Parenna
So good to meet you, welcome! Thanks for sharing your experience.
Of course you’re not doing it wrong, your strategy is awesome! The way you know that is that it works for you, regardless of what we knuckleheads on the internet say. I’m surprised that you are introverted yet also put yourself out there frequently to meet new people.
Your being cheerful and straightforward is exactly what Eric Charles recommends – it’s Day Game. You strike up conversations with people just for fun, so they’re not wondering what you want from them, if you’re trying to pick them up, etc. The same guy who will happily discuss the book he’s reading and trade numbers might respond very differently if you rubbed up against him in a low cut top.
I would classify your strategy as one of meeting new people, which is obviously a great way to increase your chances of getting into a relationship, or of just making new friends! Once you establish rapport, you exchange numbers, suggest a hang, etc.
I don’t remember which reader said it, but one woman said that sometimes guys do approach, but after a couple of minutes the conversation stalls and the guys say, “OK, I’m going to go back to my friends now.” It could be they are not interested in further contact, but she often suspects they’ve just run out of things to say and feel awkward. If she’s interested she says, “Before you go, let me give you my number.” Obviously, the results are mixed but she has heard from several guys this way.
The bottom line is: Put yourself out there. Make it easy for guys to connect.
32Susan Walsh October 6, 2011 at 8:23 am
@Ceer
That is an epic comment, full of useful tactical information and such a great explanation of male psychology. Thank you so much for sharing it. Despite all the male claims that women don’t want beta guys, this is a frequent topic around HUS – how to encourage those guys (the 80% non-manslut guys).
33Wayfinder October 6, 2011 at 8:23 am
@Susan
You perceived correctly that the guy was speaking literally.